Did You Grow Up With Parental Narcissism?

Do you ever feel:

  • Emotionally disconnected?
  • Not understanding why you're unhappy?
  • Unable to relate comfortably with your own family?
  • Like you need to prepare yourself before speaking to your parents, to put the “real you” on a shelf?

If the answer to any of these questions is “yes,” you may have had a parent with narcissism. And you may be living with narcissistic injury today.

Narcissism is not a “yes/no” diagnosis. It’s a way of being. It’s a tendency to NOT see others in their own right. And, as a parent, it’s a tendency to only give what you want to give, and not “see” what the child needs.

As much as a parent acts narcissistically, that’s how much narcissistic injury will show up in the adult life of that child.

Narcissism survey - ReclaimingYourself
  • Are You The Child Of A Narcissist?


    Before you begin:  Some people have expressed feelings of guilt answering the questions below - as if they are being asked to paint their parent as evil. Many narcissists are nice people who would never want to hurt you.  However, despite their good qualities, if your parent was limited, scared, or needy, they probably had some narcissistic traits that negatively impacted you.  This is about improving your life, not about judging your parent.  If you feel guilty answering "yes" to any of the questions below - if you feel you are being asked to paint your parent as "evil" - then you may find it helpful to switch the word "evil" in your mind to "limited", "scared" or "needy".

    Check all those that apply to your father or mother.  The word "mother" is used here to keep the wording simple. 

  • Have you gained some clarity on how much narcissism you were raised with?  Submit your email address below and you will receive a copy of your survey and an opportunity to receive information about parental narcissism and narcissistic injury, available resources, and tools for self-help.

  • Should be Empty:

Narcissism is when someone feels the world revolves around them. But narcissism is a spectrum-disorder which means your parent may have a few narcissistic traits that show up sometimes, or a full-blown personality disorder which defines their relationship with you entirely. If you were raised by a narcissist, then you may be hard on yourself, self-sabotage, or often feel conflicted inside. If one of your parents was narcissistic, then when you realize what’s been going on, everything begins to make sense, and you can heal and move on! The first step is right here! I will be getting back to you with follow-up from your quiz.

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